Complement Me

Don't Complete me, Complement me

Have you ever heard people say " I want to be someone with who completes me" or say something like " You complete me" to their other half? I know I have. I actually used to believe that at one point in time. But as I got older, that belief kept being challenged by my experiences. 

I started to wonder- why do I need somebody else to complete me? Why would who I am as a person depend on somebody else being present in my life? Shouldn't this process of feeling whole and complete be just dependent on myself? The only answer that my mind  kept coming up with was that-I should feel complete and whole without being dependent on another person. I shouldn't need anybody else to complete me. Rather than looking for someone to complete us, we should look for someone who can complement who we already are as a person.